My Mom is Having my Baby
Breanna Loving is going to be a mom in November. After years of infertility she found a surprising path to motherhood, with help from her own mom. Here is Breanna's story, told in her own words.
I married my high school sweetheart in 2016. Immediately following our wedding, we got the sad news that my grandfather had terminal cancer. We moved up our plan right away to have a baby, as all my grandfather talked about was meeting his great grandchild. I thought it would happen right away. I mean that's what they teach you in health class, right? Months went on with no success and we sought the help of Dr. Kaplan with Fertility Centers of Illinois.
On one of our final attempts to get pregnant, we found out we were having twins! We were absolutely over the moon excited. Everything was going textbook as planned. We had multiple scans to check on our little babies growth and they had strong heartbeats. Then almost into our second trimester, my mom came with me to one of my appointments--she couldn't wait to see her little grand babies on the screen. It was during that appointment I got the most terrible news. Watching my OBGYN do the ultrasound, I saw the concern on her face. "I'm so sorry Breanna, I don't see fetal heartbeat in either baby," she said. Instantly my world came crashing down.
It was back to square one. We picked ourselves up of the floor of that office, took the time to grieve and heal, and continued on. We hit a major roadblock on our journey in 2019. With no luck getting pregnant anymore, we decided to do an exploratory surgery to check the inside of my uterus. Findings showed that I had a complication from the D&C. I had a condition called Asherman Syndrome, which is the formation of scar tissue in the uterine cavity. With this condition it is even more difficult to become pregnant and if you do get pregnant, it is high risk. Heartbroken, with another obstacle in our face now, we pushed on. After many more failed attempts, our doctor let us know we had done everything we could, and surrogacy was our best option.
The first trimester was a rush of emotions. There was high anxiety at every appointment. We held our breath at each milestone. My mom sailed right through everything. We found out we are having a beautiful baby girl. We have let our guards down now that we are halfway through. We are planning the nursery, shower, and picking out names.